Cathy Weiss

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Don't Judge Me

I love shiny/sparkly nail polish, pretty much all things pink with hearts or leopard print, my vast collection of pajamas that I wear anytime I'm not in public, So You Think You Can Dance, and dark chocolate every day before bed. Like most people, lately I would then utter the phrase: Don't judge me.

When asked "What do you want out of life?" most people respond that they want to be happy. Generally speaking things that bring us pleasure also bring happiness. Yet many of us have attached guilt and judgement to our pleasures so much that they often don't bring the full extent of enjoyment that they possibly could.

I have recently decided to remove that pop-culture phrase out of my vocabulary. Can you feel the weight of it sucking all pleasure out of those things that I enjoy? It's like all of the sudden my Light dims, my pleasures become "guilty" and no longer brings happiness in any way.

Each of us is a unique expression of the Divine, exploding into the world as US. Like each tree, each blade of grass, each duck, rock, mountain and ocean we are a valuable part of the Universe with an inner Light meant to shine bright. Part of our inner being is meant to find pleasure in life and to embrace our preferences wholly.

I know some women who love to watch sports, who own pink mixers, who love wear lots of jewelry, who never wear make-up, who never miss American Idol, who stay up late playing games, who would rather curl up with a book, and on and on and on. I welcome and love that each of us finds pleasure in different things. The more we allow ourselves to feel pleasure the richer, more vibrant and satisfying life becomes without needing anything more than we already have, without having to do anything differently than focusing our awareness on the deliciousness of life.

Pleasure is a very present, in the now feeling. Tasting the chocolate so that one square is enough, happy dancing in a new set of PJ's, having a set alone time each week to watch SYTYCD without interruption is what allows me to sink into pleasure and find happiness and a love of life right now even as I strive for improvement.

September's word of the month is pleasure. Try for this whole month to not use the phrases "guilty pleasure" or "don't judge me". If one month feels like too much try one week or one day or even just one hour. Sink into pleasure and notice how much fuller, satisfying and happier life can be.

I'd like to leave you with one of my favorite quotes without further comment:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

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